Comments for jenniclayville.com http://www.jenniclayville.com Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:01:51 -0800 hourly 1 Comment on FORGIVENESS by Trish http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8094 Trish Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:01:51 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8094 I am so proud of you! What courage this post took to write! I believe that not offering forgiveness does more damage to you than to the person you need to forgive. Sometimes you don't even know where or how to start to forgive and it can feel like a long painful process. But I know in my 15 year journey of forgiving my Dad it has been worth the pain to be free from the pain that comes with not offering forgiveness. Has my Dad changed? No... but I have! I KNOW that God is going to do amazing things through your willingness to let Him strip you of your walls of protection! I'm excited to see you find freedom through forgiveness! So, so proud of you my friend!! I am so proud of you! What courage this post took to write!

I believe that not offering forgiveness does more damage to you than to the person you need to forgive. Sometimes you don’t even know where or how to start to forgive and it can feel like a long painful process. But I know in my 15 year journey of forgiving my Dad it has been worth the pain to be free from the pain that comes with not offering forgiveness. Has my Dad changed? No… but I have!

I KNOW that God is going to do amazing things through your willingness to let Him strip you of your walls of protection! I’m excited to see you find freedom through forgiveness! So, so proud of you my friend!!

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8092 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:53:06 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8092 Praying, Shellie. You now get to do something I don't get to do. You have the opportunity to make it RIGHT on your side. love you! Praying, Shellie. You now get to do something I don’t get to do. You have the opportunity to make it RIGHT on your side.

love you!

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by Shellie (baylormum) http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8091 Shellie (baylormum) Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:29:56 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8091 And now an irony to share. My mother suffered a massive stroke at dinner last night. Was airlifted to trauma center in Austin. Is awake & breathing on her own, but brain swelling is massive & she has no movement on her right side. As a retired RN she knows the drill. Her mother had a stroke in her 90's and my mother cared for her until she died. I know (and my dad told dr) that she wants no heroic measures. I am flying to Austin in next couple of days to help my dad out. My daughter met them at the hospital and said G'ma was startled to see her. She squeezed her hand. But, when we talked this morning, it has been so long since their has been a real relationship there that the emotion is not part of the equation at the moment. It's not that I don't feel anything. It's that I filed it away under "amends I will make someday". Hate to open that file drawer too far, too fast. I don't need my (our) past to haunt me. Please pray. I'm kind of numb this morning. Thanks. And now an irony to share. My mother suffered a massive stroke at dinner last night. Was airlifted to trauma center in Austin. Is awake & breathing on her own, but brain swelling is massive & she has no movement on her right side. As a retired RN she knows the drill. Her mother had a stroke in her 90’s and my mother cared for her until she died. I know (and my dad told dr) that she wants no heroic measures. I am flying to Austin in next couple of days to help my dad out. My daughter met them at the hospital and said G’ma was startled to see her. She squeezed her hand. But, when we talked this morning, it has been so long since their has been a real relationship there that the emotion is not part of the equation at the moment. It’s not that I don’t feel anything. It’s that I filed it away under “amends I will make someday”. Hate to open that file drawer too far, too fast. I don’t need my (our) past to haunt me. Please pray. I’m kind of numb this morning. Thanks.

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8090 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:13:36 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8090 exactly. that's what i was thinking. exactly. that’s what i was thinking.

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by Kris H http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8088 Kris H Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:41:22 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8088 That's all you can do, right? I guess forgiveness has to be unselfish in that you expect nothing in return and yet it's about self-preservation in a way, too. So, if this is a step toward forgiveness, where do you go from here? Man, this sure is a lot to chew on, but you're right, we're not alone in our struggle to forgive and I admire you putting it out there. That’s all you can do, right? I guess forgiveness has to be unselfish in that you expect nothing in return and yet it’s about self-preservation in a way, too.
So, if this is a step toward forgiveness, where do you go from here?
Man, this sure is a lot to chew on, but you’re right, we’re not alone in our struggle to forgive and I admire you putting it out there.

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8087 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:16:29 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8087 thank you for your comment, paul! i whole-heartedly agree. thank you for your comment, paul!

i whole-heartedly agree.

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8086 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:14:05 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8086 yes. it spills into every part of our lives, doesn't it. praying for you too, liz! yes. it spills into every part of our lives, doesn’t it.

praying for you too, liz!

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8085 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:12:35 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8085 Kris... i know we are so alike. and now you can see it's not just you and me. my sister, renee, actually commented on this post. all of my sisters at one time have had a falling out with our mother... but what child hasn't with their parent, right? my sisters and i have talked, but it's more of a sounding board of how to fix things or better things than it is a blame game or criticization (is that a word?) or my mother. my sisters are great "devil's advocates" in helping me see the other side sometimes... but mostly, they are great confidants and amazing sounding boards. they've been through it with me, so they understand it all... whichever way. this post isn't as much about my mom as it is about me. i have a choice in what i do... even if it never changes her decision. i WILL forgive her... because all this... has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with me. Kris…

i know we are so alike. and now you can see it’s not just you and me.

my sister, renee, actually commented on this post. all of my sisters at one time have had a falling out with our mother… but what child hasn’t with their parent, right?

my sisters and i have talked, but it’s more of a sounding board of how to fix things or better things than it is a blame game or criticization (is that a word?) or my mother. my sisters are great “devil’s advocates” in helping me see the other side sometimes… but mostly, they are great confidants and amazing sounding boards. they’ve been through it with me, so they understand it all…

whichever way. this post isn’t as much about my mom as it is about me. i have a choice in what i do… even if it never changes her decision. i WILL forgive her… because all this… has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with me.

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by jenni http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8084 jenni Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:45:53 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8084 i love you, sister! i love you, sister!

]]> Comment on FORGIVENESS by N.A. Winter http://www.jenniclayville.com/forgiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-8082 N.A. Winter Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:16:51 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4626#comment-8082 Loved the transparency and the description of what unforgiveness can do. I've been reminded a lot lately of the parable of the servant who was forgiven a huge debt and yet was unwilling to forgive a small one. How great a debt Christ has forgiven for me. May I extend even a portion of this grace to others. Loved the transparency and the description of what unforgiveness can do. I’ve been reminded a lot lately of the parable of the servant who was forgiven a huge debt and yet was unwilling to forgive a small one. How great a debt Christ has forgiven for me. May I extend even a portion of this grace to others.

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