Comments on: Silence is NOT Golden http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/ Sun, 05 Sep 2010 00:21:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Renée http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-8012 Renée Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:41:25 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-8012 Oh the desert is quite pretty. There are definite moments of suck.. but it's ok. :) I guess, in addition to letting people know I'm in a desert.. I'd rather look up and outside of my world and see who else I can help. :) Cuz the world doesn't revolve around me. Is it ok that things are tough in my world? Sure.. has God placed amazing people to be present? Yes. If anything, I find that I am just not grateful enough for what I have.. :) Oh the desert is quite pretty. There are definite moments of suck.. but it’s ok. :) I guess, in addition to letting people know I’m in a desert.. I’d rather look up and outside of my world and see who else I can help. :) Cuz the world doesn’t revolve around me. Is it ok that things are tough in my world? Sure.. has God placed amazing people to be present? Yes. If anything, I find that I am just not grateful enough for what I have.. :)

]]> By: Jenni Clayville http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-8010 Jenni Clayville Sat, 06 Mar 2010 17:39:27 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-8010 I'm sorry you're going through the desert right now, Nae. That's never easy... and it's such a lonely, lonely place. The first step is allowing people to know you're in the desert so that those who can help, CAN help. I love you, honey!!! I’m sorry you’re going through the desert right now, Nae. That’s never easy… and it’s such a lonely, lonely place.

The first step is allowing people to know you’re in the desert so that those who can help, CAN help. I love you, honey!!!

]]> By: Renée http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-8008 Renée Sat, 06 Mar 2010 11:18:54 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-8008 I 100% agree with all that you've stated, cuz I've definitely felt that way before... so I want to comment on being the person who's in the desert. I'm there a lot.. in fact I'm there right now.. ha ha.. Truthfully, when I'm absorbed in a self-focused world (and I am not saying this as a negative thing.. just stating that in that particular moment/season.. life for me has become centripetal).. sometimes whether you stay silent or speak up, it will still rub me wrong simply because of the fragile space I'm existing in. I'm just learning that: 1) everyone's value of things are different. -- thus -- 2) people will let me down. -- but -- 3) people cannot make me whole. 4) people cannot save me. -- however -- 5) there are other people in this world... 6) CONSIDER... that they are probably in a desert too.. 7) ... maybe I should find one and be a "golden" person to them despite my own desert I'm walking. I feel that in addition to thinking of ways other people could better serve me.. I can also ask the question of how I can better serve others.. not to make what I'm going through less important or valuable.. but regardless of what I may be going through.. or that it sucks that my friends aren't pulling the load.. I feel that my focus should still be on others.. Just thinking with you. Thanks for sharing and letting this be an open forum. :) Love you. I 100% agree with all that you’ve stated, cuz I’ve definitely felt that way before… so I want to comment on being the person who’s in the desert. I’m there a lot.. in fact I’m there right now.. ha ha..

Truthfully, when I’m absorbed in a self-focused world (and I am not saying this as a negative thing.. just stating that in that particular moment/season.. life for me has become centripetal).. sometimes whether you stay silent or speak up, it will still rub me wrong simply because of the fragile space I’m existing in.

I’m just learning that:

1) everyone’s value of things are different. — thus –
2) people will let me down. — but –
3) people cannot make me whole.
4) people cannot save me. — however –
5) there are other people in this world…
6) CONSIDER… that they are probably in a desert too..
7) … maybe I should find one and be a “golden” person to them despite my own desert I’m walking.

I feel that in addition to thinking of ways other people could better serve me.. I can also ask the question of how I can better serve others.. not to make what I’m going through less important or valuable.. but regardless of what I may be going through.. or that it sucks that my friends aren’t pulling the load.. I feel that my focus should still be on others..

Just thinking with you. Thanks for sharing and letting this be an open forum. :) Love you.

]]> By: Jenni Clayville http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-7987 Jenni Clayville Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:38:10 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-7987 marty, you're definitely NOT alone. there are many of us that feel this way... just not many of us who talk about it so publicly. you're FAR from being alone. marty, you’re definitely NOT alone. there are many of us that feel this way… just not many of us who talk about it so publicly. you’re FAR from being alone.

]]> By: Marty http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-7985 Marty Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:38:53 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-7985 Wow. Nail on the head. I feel so disconnected from my friends and family since my husband and I divorced our old relationship and started on this new journey. My circle has gotten very small, indeed. I cannot tell you how grateful I am for your candor. I feel less disconnected when I see how not alone I really am. Thank you. Humbly, thank you. Wow. Nail on the head. I feel so disconnected from my friends and family since my husband and I divorced our old relationship and started on this new journey. My circle has gotten very small, indeed. I cannot tell you how grateful I am for your candor. I feel less disconnected when I see how not alone I really am. Thank you. Humbly, thank you.

]]> By: alece http://www.jenniclayville.com/silence-is-not-golden/comment-page-1/#comment-7979 alece Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:12:07 +0000 http://www.jenniclayville.com/?p=4606#comment-7979 i can't say "amen" loud enough. i can’t say “amen” loud enough.

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