People are incredible in crisis.
Scott & Holly’s friends have AMAZINGLY helped me fill the Resnick’s FIRST MONTHS worth of lunches and dinners AS WELL AS scheduled weekly “Household Needs” runs at Target within the first 24 hours. Saying “Thank you” doesn’t seem even close to being enough right now.
I realized in the chaos of this crisis, many of you are left wondering what really happened, how’s Holly, how’s the kids, etc. So, here’s the info/update.
*Scott Resnick was piloting the Lancair IV late Friday night on his way to his uncle’s funeral in the state of Arizona when something went terribly wrong and the plane went down. Scott had another pilot friend, **Daylon Harrington (age 25) on board. Both did not survive. Of course, Holly and the children are devastated. Holly’s best friend, Erin, is staying at her house and taking care of her EVERY need. Holly has barely left her room since she heard the news and time is standing still for her. She’s completely heart-broken but she is SO strong. She doesn’t even know how strong she is. Though she is not really responding to any messages, she IS reading everyone’s encouraging and loving emails and Facebook messages.
I know many of you want to help. Below, I am listing out different opportunities we can all get involved and who to contact for those opportunities.
1. HOUSEKEEPING - Many have offered to help clean and do laundry, but at this time, the less people coming in and out of Holly’s home, the better. Marni Renison has arranged for a house cleaner to come to her house on a weekly basis and will be taking a collection for her to have this done. Feel free to contribute what you feel most comfortable with, but we’re suggesting at least $25. You can also email Marni (mkrenison[at]yahoo[dot]com) for how to get your contribution to her.
2. HOUSEHOLD NEEDS - We have people running to pick up household needs and specific groceries for Holly once a week. However, that can get expensive. The solution??? Gift cards! You can contribute by getting gift cards from TARGET and ALBERTSONS. If you’re having a difficult time choosing which one to go to, there is a bigger need for Target since that’s where we’ll be getting most of our weekly household items. If this is your choice of contribution, please email me at jenni[at]jenniclayville[dot]com for my mailing address.
3. ”MAN LIST” JOBS - This is where we need some men. Landscaping, Electrical Work, Appliance Work, etc. William Efird is heading this up. You can contact William (william.efird[at]lennoxind[dot]com) to get on this calendar list.
4. THE KIDS (Kiel, Reilly, Ireland & Kelton) - Leslie Burton is making a book for each of Scott & Holly’s kids and needs your help. If you could all just write even one paragraph of a great memory that you have of Scott, this will be something they can cherish in the future. Please email this to Leslie (burtons11[at]juno[dot]com)and type the word “MEMORY” in the subject line.
5. WE NEED PICTURES & VIDEO - Janet Fraser is heading up this project for the Memorial Service. If you have pictures or video of Scott, please load them HERE. The login and password are: scottresnick
Holly is one of my very closest friends and watching her go through this is just about the most devastating thing I’ve ever experienced. Holly will NEVER be the same. I know you all want to see her, but she REALLY needs time and space right now. It’s gonna be a long road ahead, so I thank you in advance for your patience, support and giving her the flexibility that she will need. Our amazing God and the community He’s provided is carrying her through this. Holly will emerge stronger than ever through your love and prayers… I have NO doubt of this. In all of this: God is STILL good and God is STILL God.
Memorial service arrangements are currently being planned. It looks like it will be at least 2 weeks out. I will let you know when the time and date is set.
On a personal note… thank you also for the loving and encouraging notes you’ve sent to me. I’m sorry if I haven’t responded, but I have close to 150 emails pouring in about Holly per day, so I’m bound to miss a few. Please be patient with me as well.
Feel free to forward this post to anyone who may want to know. If anyone wants to be added to the email update/help list, please have them email me and I will gladly include them.
Thank you again for all of your love and prayers! Holly knows… and she’s grateful.
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* Scott’s parent’s, Rudi and Shelley, just returned home from Shelley’s brother’s funeral. Shelley not only lost a son, but her brother too all in one month. (Thanks, Chris, for reminding me to put this up)
** Daylon was single. Daylon’s parents, Gary and Val, live in the Medford area and attend Trail Church. His Memorial Service is set for next Saturday at 4pm. Gary and Val do NOT have email, but they are monitoring Daylon’s Facebook page.
My prayers and thoughts and hugs go out to Holly, her children, and you, Jenni. Thank you so much for the updates and the needs list.
Jenni. This system you’ve set up is fantastic. Well done.
Thanks… please keep forwarding this to people.
Jenni:Thanks for posting this. I was drawn to tears. Very encouraging to hear what others are doing to walk alongside.
Holly and the Kids are in the our prayers at the Johnson household…I will contact someone above for what we can do.
Chris Johnson
Dear Holly,
You don’t know me, but I wanted to write. My husband was killed in an airplane accident 6 1/2 years ago. My children at the time were 10 and 12. I can’t tell you things will be alright in time because they will never be the same, but I can tell you this “tough times give us a chance to be intimatly in God’s presence.” It is a broken, lonely, and fragil place to be, but a blessed one if I may be so bold. Hold strong to God’s love and you will see God’s heart in all of this. God granted me so many special times with him after Ed’s death, I pray you will have those also. I will keep in touch if you would allow me the honor. If you ever need to talk with a total stranger I am here. My email is mgisfy@yahoo.com (My key verse: My Grace is Sufficient for you, 2 Cor 12:9)
God Bless you and your Children Holly, Lori
Wow… the response here is amazing! I feel so privileged to be a part of this!
Jenni,
Thank you so much for posting this and for being such an amazing support to Holly and her family. I went to high school with Holly and am now living on the east coast, so there is nothing I can do for her day to day needs. But another high school friend (Keely) lives out here as well and we would like to, at the very least, send a personal message that is not e-mail or facebook. Could you please contact me with the information that I need? I can be reached at dlkm04@yahoo.com. Thank you so much. My heart goes out to Holly and her family.
Lois Hughey
Please add my email address to the list for updated memorial service info.
Scott and I attended school together from the third grade through the eighth grade. He born a fearless leader. I wonder why God removes people like him from our lives. I guess we will all have to investigate that one for ourselves.
Thanks for keeping the memory and info alive!
I work directly with Holly. I feel so badly for her and her family. I’m praying for them. She is an amazing person and will survive this tragedy.
all my love.
Eric
Jenni, don’t know you and am only acquaintances with Holly. WELL DONE on this post. Even I am spreading it to others I have praying for the family. You are an example for the rest of us on how to behave and take action as a true friend in time of tragedy. Our prayers are with YOU as well. God bless.
To Holly,
You and your children are in my thoughts several times each day. And, at the moment you come to mind, I ask God to be with you and to comfort you. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through or that your children are going through. I do believe it is tremendous and that is why you are put on our hearts so frequently. You are loved but you are not alone. We are strong on your behalf and we will be faithful to pray for you and to serve your family. Please receive our help. We love you and you are thought of and cared for….Stephanie (The girl you recently encouraged to join choir and who you ran into at the Women of Vision auction)
Lois & Jen – thank you so much for your encouragement. I do this because I’m a “doer” in crisis. I can’t just sit still because I believe I MAY possibly implode. Also, Holly and her kids are extremely important to me and she’s been there for me through some of my darkest times without judgement.
I cannot believe how amazing everyone has been. My heart has never been so broken, yet feel so complete at the same time.
I am thankful for everyone’s contributions for the Resnick’s at this time.
Hi Jenni & Holly,
We have been in prayer since we heard on Saturday.
I had this vision of you two, today, sitting in front of all the women at the “Closer” event a few months ago,singing, praising God, crying out to Him and sharing your intimate feelings about Him with all of us. Bless you both and bless God for placing you in each others lives. Little did we know then how vital a Christian friendship like yours would be. Keep singing…God will show you a light of healing in the midst of this storm.
Holly, give Kelton a hug from his Teacher Patti. Miss him in Kidtropolis.
Love, your sister in Christ, Patti
To the Kids of Holly Resnick,
Your Dad was always polite to me and I hope you will remember this about him. I am pretty sure he would like you all to be this way to.
My Condolences,
Joanie
Hi Holly,
I am at such a loss for words. Please know that my prayers are with you. I know God has a plan, but this side of heaven it’s so hard to understand why this had to happen to such a sweet family. I had aother friend lose her husband unexpectedly on May 6th…so 2 young daddy’s in less than a month. I’m in shock… I think that’s why I am having a hard time finding the right words.
Jenni, thank you for being there for Holly. I’ll be praying for you as well as you help Holly through such a hard time. My husband and I both want to help out. Thanks for the ideas above.
Sending love, hugs and prayers every day,
xo Molly
Jenni,
Thank you so much for everything you are doing to help Holly through this unimaginably difficult time. You are a wonderful friend who is being mightily used by God.
In His Love,
Amy
Holly, Kiel, Reilly, Ireland and Kelton
You are all soo precious to us even in the short time we have been friends. We are just crushed right now with the loss of Scott. Know in our heart of hearts we are praying for you all and doing everything we can to love..support…pray and be there for Shelley and Rudi 24/7. They call us daily to update us and share thier hearts with us. We love them like our own mom and dad and God knows the big picture .. words just can’t express how I am feeling for you all right now..just know as much as we would love to see u and hug you.. we understand you need ur own time for now.. Rudi and Shelley are the best inlaws you could ever ask for. and we are honoured to have them as our friends. Thank you Holly and kids for your friendship..so many wonderful memories. we are here anytime for you as well.. give our love to the kids .. warm hugs sweet dear Holly .. xoxoxo
ps: remember..God bottles all our tears..they are so precious to Him
Jenni and Holly –
I am moved to tears. I don’t know what to say or how to respond. What you’re going through, Holly, is something indescribable, but I know that God is big enough.
Jenni, the organization and effort you’ve listed here, to bring the church together as a body is incredible. That truly moved me to tears. I’m doing a study on the gifts of the spirit, and … it is SO beautiful to see it in action.
bless you both!
PS: visiting from Tam’s site.
Holly, Kiel, Reilly, Ireland, and Kelton;
I think of you all every day and wonder how you are. I cried myself to sleep last night thinking of you and how horrible this news was for you to hear. Those of us who only know you from afar will never forget your tragedy and I can only hope others will find strength in this tragedy by sharing their grief with others and seeing the arms of Jesus wrapped around all of you holding you close right now. I was the PREP leader for Kiel, Reilly, and Ireland last year and I love these kids. We are here for you and will keep you in our prayers. Thank you Jenny for this amazing website you’ve put together.
Linda Howell
I knew Scott only a few months. We met at men’s retreat. We shared the love of flying. I wrote this attempting a song, but. Anyway.
WITH THANKS
He signed his name “With Thanks”
From what I know of him:
He smiled alot and generally enjoyed his life.
He said he hoped people liked him but wasn’t sure.
He said he regrets the times he found fault in those he loved the most.
He said he finds his wife more beautiful every day.
He loved to fly.
He was extremely good at ping pong.
He lived his life the way he signed his name.
Holly and Family
I guess one of the reasons we all feel so strongly about this is that it feels so close to home. Many of us are in the same stage of life as you and Scott as well as Daylon’s. Never the less, we’re all family.
I’ve been so heart broken for you and your family. Hopefully, some day, we’ll know why God wrote the story this way. For now, the hands and feet of God are at work, loving, praying, and caring for you and your family in every way we humanly can. I’m pretty sure that’s the way it’s supposed to be. . . .
God Bless-
Thanks for doing this Jenni–it means SO much to our family.
We are grateful for everyone’s thoughts and prayers. Being able to do something when there is a tragedy is healing–thanks for your willingness to act. All of you. By helping Holly and the kids you show them the love you felt for Scott. You also chip away at the helplessness you might feel as you seek understanding and acceptance. Love to all of you.
God Bless You,
Lyndsey Resnick
Jenni,
Evelyn & I have been helped by Holly many times and would like to help. Is there going to be a gathering after the Saturday service? And would there be any need for food? We would be happy to donate hams or anything that might help with that.
If you could let me know at
davidandevelynquinn@Msn.com
Our love, prayers and thanks to you. dq
Thank you, all, for your words of kindness and encouragement.
I’ve forwarded many of these to Holly.
I will continue updating for needs.
We do not know Scott and Holly personally, but we know of them from church and are sick about this. They, with their children, are in our prayers.
jenni:
Do we mail the target cards to the house or is someone collecting them? Count us in for cookies as well.
Mike and Kecia
Precious Jenni:
What an amazing, strong, talented, beautiful woman you are! “Thank you” seems very inadequate to express our deep appreciation for ALL you are doing for Holly, the kids and our family in this time of loss and need.
Your practical help in so many ways is such a gift of love to all of us.
Though we do not comprehend God’s plan in all of this, we know He is there, comforting, encouraging, guiding, leading, and faithfully loving, and that He will NEVER leave us or foresake us.
God bless you!
Jenni,
I just learned of Scott’s death last night. I have been searching the internet to find out what happened and found your website. My children and I lived next door to Scott and Holly and the babies when they lived on 9th St. in Beaverton several years ago. My daughter, Maegan, babysat the children – and we all adored the Resnick family. They were a shining example of what God intended “family” to be. I am feeling devastated this morning, and have no idea how I’m going to tell my children what has happened. Please convey our love to Holly. She and the children will be in our prayers.
Mara, Michael, Maegan and Matthew Barnes
Holly c/o jenni:
After spending that day with scott and getting to lunch with you and your son too, I came home raving of “my new friend.” Scott’s generosity, enthusism, love of flying and passion for finding solutions had already changed my way of thinking. Scott was (and is) an infectiously positive guy whose personality will be found in everyone he surrounded himself with, many of whom havelovingly and faithfully contributed to this blog.
Feeling the loss I feel after just a few hours of palling around with your husband, I cannot fathom your state right now. I will not pretend to. My hopes for this message are to tell you that I’m so very sorry and to thank you for sharing your husband with me… he will have nade a difference in my life.
I believe that god does provide and that you will find scott’s love in all the people he shared his life with. And you will one day emerge feeling whole again.
I look forward to seeing you again and if there is a way joelle or I can help you, I can’t think of a better reason for being on this planet.
Jenni, thanks for the opportunity for an outsider to wish holly well. I will sign up to help. Keep up the good work.
Love, hope and prayers,
Kent
We are so sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you. Our hearts go out to the whole family.
3 and 1/2 years we lost our 2nd son Tommy, and without God it would have been very difficult. Praise God that He is in your lives too.
Not much else we can do but pray that God will give you amazing strength at this time.
Sincerely, with deepest sympathy, Tom and Nancy Paul
Holly, C/O Jenni,
My heart is still breaking from the loss of my nephew, Scott, and from the loss of my brother, David. I am comforted knowing that these two fabulous men are with our Heavenly Father, shinning so brightly above. I am holding all of you closely in my constant thoughts and prayers. I will be there for the memorial service, until then, know that I love you!
Kristine (Scottsdale, AZ)
I’m still baffled by the love shown in these comments to Holly.
Thank you all a million times over.
Shelley… you are an amazing woman of faith. I continue to pray that one day, I will have even a portion of your strength and joy. I’ll see you soon!
Jenni,
Terrific web site, thank you. We are part of the sorrowing many who love the Resnicks. One thing that went through my mind was that if any of the kids is in a lesson of some kind, we could take over some or all of the cost of that. If that is not a need, we’ll hop on one of the other great options you list. If I do not hear from you (understandable) we will assume that latter.
Well done, sister.
Melissa Griffith
Dearest Holly, there are no words that I can say that can ease your pain. No actions that can change what happened, but know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know that Scott’s love for you, like a hand print he left on your heart along with God’s love will help you get thru this, and that same love will enable you to continue to be the amazing Mother (and now Father too) to those 4 wonderful children that you and Scott brought into this world. I will be watching Emily and Julia on Friday night and Saturday but will be thinking of you. If there is anything Hannah or I can do, please let us know. You are in our thoughts and prayers, Candy and Hannah Eggert
Holly
I,m so sorry for your loss. My family will continue to pray for yours.
Scott was such a warrior for christ! He glorified GOD in all that he did. But what I will remember about Scott is how much he loved his Wife, how he cherished his children and was the Man GOD intended him to be!