Jenni on Skype: jclayville 
As most of you know, Justin & Trish are good friends of ours. They played a HUGE part in the restoration of Brian and my marriage after my affair.
Today… Justin wrote an amazing post about the steps you NEED to take if you truly want restoration in your marriage and in your life.
- Totally surrender and repent before God
- Cut all ties with the person whom you have had the affair
- Submit every minute of your life to a trusted friend
- Get to a Christian counselor that specializes in marriage restoration
- Come clean early and often as you try to rebuild trust
- Be willing to do whatever it takes to restore your marriage
I posted his points here but you REALLY need to read everything in between for the full picture. CLICK HERE to read all of it.
With that said… I’d just like to add this:
It’s about MORE than just your marriage (and if you’re not married… your FUTURE marriage)… it’s about your relationship with GOD. When I was choosing my affair, I was not only giving my husband and family my sloppy seconds… but giving God even less. That’s not His desire for us.
God desires for us to be completely united with Him first and foremost.
He wants to bless us with the most amazing gifts.
He wants to break our hearts with the things that break His.
He wants us to see compassion through His eyes.
He wants us to feel community the way He does with Jesus and the Spirit.
He wants us to experience life the way He intended us to… without barriers.
When we choose something/someone else before Him… we don’t get to live within our true potential or purpose. We lose ourselves… and THAT… is devastating.
Go… Read… Soak it in…
… CHANGE.
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Update: For Trisha’s response… CLICK HERE!
Justin’s a really hoopy frood. I’m very blessed to be able to be a part of his church.
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jenni Reply:
January 19th, 2010 at 7:34 pm
ha. yeah…
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Your transparency is wonderful. Your desire to see others skip the path you went down is admirable. I hope people will listen and realize — it really is all connected — our relationships here, our relationship with God.
Tanks, Jenni
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jenni Reply:
January 19th, 2010 at 7:34 pm
thank you, faye! your words are encouraging.
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In the midst of all the heartache our choices have caused I am thankful that God has brought us together to help people realize that restoration is possible for everyone if they choose it. There is a huge price to pay up front but it’s worth it in the end! Thank you for being a vulnerable example of brokenness! I love you!
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jenni Reply:
January 20th, 2010 at 8:24 am
absolutely, trish. it reminds me of how God blessed Job twicefold after all the disasters. it doesn’t feel like life can get any better at the time OF… but hindsight is 20/20, right?
love you, friend. i hope to see you soon! i miss your face.
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